• Be familiar with the coaching and training programme in order that you can ensure that your child is fully involved and the coaches are aware of their availability.

  • Be familiar with the teaching and coaching methods used by observing the sessions in which your child participates.

  • Be aware that the club has a duty of care and therefore, where appropriate, assist coaches with the supervision of the young players, particularly where numbers are large and there is a need to transport youngsters to away games.

  • Be involved with club activities and share your expertise.

  • Share concerns, if you have them, with club officials.

  • Be familiar with the Good Coaches Code. In particular:

  • Coaches should recognise the importance of fun and enjoyment when coaching young players.

  • Coaches should keep winning and losing in perspective, encouraging young players to behave with dignity in all circumstances.

  • It is important that parents support coaches in instilling these virtues.


  • Remember that young people play rugby for their own enjoyment not that of their parents.

  • Encourage young people to play - do not force them.

  • Focus on the young players' efforts, rather than winning or losing.

  • Be realistic about the young players' abilities; do not push them towards a level that they are not capable of achieving.

  • Provide positive verbal feedback both in training and during the game.

  • Remember that persistent, negative messages will adversely affect the players' and referee's performance and attitude.

  • Always support the rugby club in their efforts to eradicate loud, coarse and abusive behaviour from the game.

  • Remember young people learn much by example.

  • Always show appreciation of good play by all young players both from your own club and the opposition.

  • Respect decisions made by the match officials and encourage the young players to do likewise



  • Recognise and appreciate the efforts made by coaches, parents, match officials and administrators in providing the opportunity for you to play the game and enjoy the rugby environment.

  • Understand the values of loyalty and commitment to adults and team mates.

  • Recognise that every young player has a right to expect their involvement in rugby to be safe and free from all types of abuse.

  • Understand that if an individual or group of young players feel they are not being treated in a manner that is acceptable, then you have a right to tell an adult either at the rugby club or outside of the game.


  • Play because you want to do so, not to please coaches or parents.

  • Remember that skill development, fun and enjoyment are the most important parts of the game.

  • Be attentive at all training and coaching sessions.

  • Work equally hard for yourself and your team - both will then benefit.

  • Recognise good play by all players on your team and by your opponents.

  • Be a sportsman - win or lose.

  • Play to the Laws of the Game and accept, without question, all referees' decisions.

  • Control your emotions. Verbal or physical abuse of team mates, opponents, or match officials is not acceptable.

  • Treat all players, as you would like to be treated. Do not interfere with, bully or take advantage of any player.



  • Act as positive role models to all young players.

  • Be familiar with, and abide by, the RFU Child Protection Guidance in relation to verbal and emotional abuse.

  • Respect the rugby club with regard to spectator behaviour.


  • Remember children play sport for their enjoyment not yours.

  • Acknowledge good individual and team performance from all youngsters irrespective of the team for whom they play.

  • Respect match officials' decisions. Remember - they are volunteers providing an opportunity for youngsters to play rugby.

  • Never verbally abuse young players, match officials, fellow spectators or coaches. Such behaviour can create a negative environment for young players and their behaviour will often reflect this.

  • Acknowledge effort and good performance rather than the ‘win at all costs' ethic.

  • Verbally encourage all youngsters in a positive way. If you do want to shout make sure it is ‘for', not ‘at' the players.

  • Encourage all youngsters irrespective of their ability - never ridicule any individual player, regardless of the team for whom they play.

RFU SAFEGUARDING POLICY - Sevenoaks Rugby Football Club

  1. Sevenoaks Rugby Football Club acknowledges its responsibility to safeguard the welfare of all children involved in [club name] from harm.

  2. Sevenoaks RFC confirms that it adheres to the Rugby Football Union’s Safeguarding Policy and the procedures, practices and guidelines and endorse and adopt the Policy Statement contained in that document and any successor policy.

  3. A child is anyone under the age of 18 engaged in any rugby union activity. However, where a 17 year old male player is playing in the adult game it is essential that every reasonable precaution is taken to ensure his safety and wellbeing are protected.

    The Key Principles of the RFU Safeguarding Policy are that:

    • The welfare of the child is, and must always be, paramount to any other considerations.

    • All participants regardless of age, gender, ability or disability, race, faith, culture, size, shape, language or sexual identity have the right to protection from abuse or harm.

    • All allegations or suspicions of abuse, neglect, harm and poor practice will be taken seriously and responded to swiftly, fairly and appropriately.

    • Working in partnership with other organisations, statutory agencies, parents, carers, children and young people is essential for the welfare of children.

    • Children have a right to expect support, and personal and social development delivered by an appropriately recruited, vetted and managed in relation to their participation in rugby union, whether they are playing, volunteering or officiating in the community or professional areas of the sport.

  4. Sevenoaks RFC recognises that all children have the right to participate in sport in a safe, positive and enjoyable environment whilst at the same time being protected from abuse, neglect, harm and poor practice. Sevenoaks RFC recognises that this is the responsibility of everyone involved, in whatever capacity, at the club.

  5. Sevenoaks RFC will implement and comply with the RFU Code of Conduct and the Codes of Conduct for Coaches, Spectators and Officials as appropriate.

  6. The Club Safeguarding Officer is Andy Clark (07956 545 261, )
    If you witness or are aware of an incident where the welfare of a child has been put at risk you must, in the first instance, inform the Club Safeguarding Officer. They will then inform the CB Safeguarding

  7. Manager and the RFU Safeguarding Team. If an incident involves the Club Safeguarding Officer you should inform the Junior Rugby Director Danny Jones and either the CB Safeguarding Manager or the RFU Safeguarding Team.

  8. All members of Sevenoaks RFC who work with children in Regulated Activity must undertake an RFU Disclosure and Barring Service (DBS) check in accordance with RFU Regulation 21.

  9. Sevenoaks RFC will ensure that all its members, whether they are coaches, parents, players or officials will comply with the Best Practice Guidance as issued by the RFU. In summary, the following are NOT acceptable and will be treated seriously by the club and may result in disciplinary action being taken by the club, the CB or the RFU:

    • Working alone with a child.

    • Consuming alcohol whilst responsible for children.

    • Providing alcohol to children or allowing its supply.

    • Smoking in the presence of children.

    • Humiliating children.

    • Inappropriate or unnecessary physical contact with a child.

    • Participating in, or allowing, contact or physical games with children.

    • Having an intimate or sexual relationship with any child developed as a result of being in a ‘position of trust.’

    • Making sexually explicit comments or sharing sexually explicit material.

  10. Sevenoaks RFC manages the changing facilities and arranges for them to be supervised by two DBS checked adults of the appropriate gender for the players using the facilities. Sevenoaks RFC ensures that all its coaches, parents, officials and spectators are aware that adults must not change at the same time, using the same facilities as children.

  11. Sevenoaks RFC will ensure that its coaches [and team managers] will receive the support and training considered appropriate to their position and role. The RFU “Managing Challenging Behaviour” Policy has been adopted and circulated amongst the club workforce both, voluntary and paid.

  12. Any events held on Sevenoaks RFC premises must comply with this Policy and if appropriate a Safeguarding Plan should be discussed and circulated to those affected. Any tours, overseas or domestic, undertaken by Sevenoaks RFC must comply with the relevant RFU Regulations and Guidance relating to tours.

    Andy Clark, September 2019

Bullying in any form will not be tolerated and will be dealt with in accordance with the Club/RFU policy on bullying.

The Child Protection Officer of the Youth Section has been nominated as the person in charge of implementing the Child Protection Policy in the Youth Section. If any player, parent, guardian, coach or volunteer has any concerns about the behaviour of any individual associated with the Club they should contact the head coach/manager for a particular age group or the Child Protection Officer.

The Child Protection Officer have forms which they will record allegations of suspicious behaviour. There may be circumstances where allegations are about poor practice rather than abuse in which case the Club's existing disciplinary procedure may be used. Where there is any doubt advice will be sought from Social Services or the NSPCC.

It is acknowledged that feelings generated by allegations that a player may be being abused will raise concerns amongst coaches and parents. However it is important that any concerns for the welfare of the player should be reported immediately. The Club will fully support and protect anyone who, in good faith, reports his or her concerns about the possible abuse of a player.

If you have any concerns about this policy please do not hesitate to contact the Child Protection Officer.



  • Recognise the importance of fun and enjoyment when coaching young players.

  • Understand that most learning is achieved through doing.

  • Appreciate the needs of the players before the needs of the sport.

  • Be a positive role model - think what this implies.

  • Keep winning and losing in perspective - encourage young players to behave with dignity in all circumstances.

  • Respect all referees and the decisions they make (remember it could be you refereeing next week) and ensure that the players recognise that they must do the same.

  • Provide positive verbal feedback in a constructive and encouraging manner, to all young players, both during coaching sessions and games.


  • Provide experiences, which are matched to the young players' ages and abilities, as well as their physical and mental development.

  • Ensure all youngsters are coached in a safe environment, with adequate first aid readily to hand.

  • Avoid the overplaying of the best players, by using a squad system, which gives everybody a satisfactory amount of playing time.

  • Never allow a player to train or play when injured.

  • Ensure good supervision of young players, both on and off the field.

  • Recognise that young players should never be exposed to extremes of heat, cold, or unacceptable risk of injury.

  • Develop an awareness of nutrition as part of an overall education in lifestyle management.

  • Recognise that it is illegal for young players under 18 to drink alcohol.

  • Ensure that their knowledge and coaching strategies are up to date and in line with RFU philosophy.

  • Be aware of, and abide by, the RFU recommended procedures for taking young people on residential tours at home and abroad.

  • Be aware of, and abide by, the policies and procedures outlined in the RFU Policies and Procedures for the welfare of young people in Rugby Union



CHILD PROTECTION Coaches' Code of Conduct

  1. All rugby coaches must respect the rights, dignity and worth of every young person with whom they work with and treat them equally within the context of rugby union;

  2. All rugby coaches must place the physical and emotional well being of all young players above all other considerations, including the development of performance;

  3. The relationship that a rugby coach develops with the players with whom they work must be based on mutual trust and respect;

  4. All rugby coaches must ensure that all activities undertaken are appropriate to the age, maturity, experience and ability of the young players;

  5. All rugby coaches must encourage young players to accept responsibility for their own behaviour and performance;

  6. All rugby coaches should clarify with the young players (and their parents/carers) what is expected of them both on and off the rugby field and also what they are entitled to expect from the coach;

  7. All rugby coaches should work in partnership with others within the game (officials, doctors, physiotherapists, sports scientists) to ensure the well being, safety and enjoyment of all young players;

  8. All rugby coaches must promote the positive aspects of the sport, e.g. fair play. Violations of the Laws of the Game, behaviour contrary to the spirit of the Laws of the Game or relevant regulations or the use of prohibited techniques or substances must never be condoned.